Social Experiment - Part 2
A recap of the social experiment question I asked last week, “If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?"
Trawling through the tons of email responses and comments I was able to gather some key insights:
a) 98% of the answers listed a trait or imperfection they wanted to change. Only a couple mentioned they were cool to stay the same.
b) 70% were around confidence, how others perceived them, weight related issues, validation, self worth.
c) Reading other comments made me feel less lonely.
So where to, with this “social experiment”?
To be honest, when I was writing my post last week - I had another long post written out but... it just wasn’t speaking to me. After writing many of these emails, I know now that every time I stay true to my heart and write what flows, I've had a lot more impact and responses. So I chose to do that last Friday and I had no idea how it would unfold and I'm now amazed by the response (thank you!).
I came to that question because I had been thinking a lot about fears, insecurities and that inner ‘mean girl’ voice in my head.
Being a high achiever when I was younger has made "adult me” very bad at doing nothing. I always need to be on the go. I always need to be busy.
I always need to be achieving. (Achieving what I’m not entirely sure)
After a short break after selling my business, I felt I lost my identity.
That mean girl was saying to me “Who do you think you are to make this work?”, “Hmm are you sure you’re not a fraud?”, “You’re going to FAIL FAIL FAIL”.
This f**king mean girl was making me lose focus and…procrastinate. I’d procrastinate because if I didn’t take action, then I couldn’t fail.
So what did I do? I did a lot of inner work. I did a lot of journalling and deep diving to uncover what the real drivers were for this fear.
And damnnn…was it hard to face.
The weirdest thing was, it wasn’t a fear that appeared overnight, it had stemmed from early childhood experiences. Yep, can confirm childhood trauma is real and the smallest thing can trigger it. Our human memory is so marvellous and annoying at the same time 🤷♀️
So here’s Part 2 of the social experiment:
If you commented or emailed me last week with the one thing you want to change about yourself:
1. Go back to your response, read it and now ask yourself this: “If you were given the chance to change this about yourself today, would you do it?"
2. If yes, respond to your own comment “Yes” (or email me) and I will see you next week for Part 3.
Sheryl Thai, CEO
League of Extraordinary Women