What do you often discuss?
Ahhh the good old gossip session is cathartic every now and then, isn’t it?
It can be harmless fun… when it’s light-hearted and positive.
Talking about others - well...sometimes just a simple way to feel connected with others. Other times, the underlying reasons could be because we’re distracting ourselves from going deeper and being more vulnerable. And deflecting conversations to focus on other people is certainly a way of protecting ourselves and not having to reveal too much.
I believe that those we surround ourselves makes a huge difference to what we discuss and bring into our lives.
It takes discipline and constant self-awareness to be that person that steers conversations to focus on deeper subjects, to catch ourselves as soon as we start the bitchfests. (And we all know how good it is in that moment, only later to feel that pang of guilt)
There was a stage in my life when I didn’t have friends I could talk about big visions and ideas with. In fact, I used to think there was something wrong with me and that was why I no longer felt like I fit in. It just turned out that those friends and I were just on different paths in life and that was OK.
So it led me on a path of finding people that I felt inspired with, those that were on a similar path to me and that wanted to talk about the things that I desperately wanted to.
As you might already know, my favourite quote is “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” because I know this to be true for me. This is also the basis of Find Your Five and why we've created it, tap on the button below if you're curious about it.
Sheryl Thai, CEO
League of Extraordinary Women