How to handle rejection without losing it like a 5 year old
I'm sure you've experienced something like this before, right?
After coffee catchups, follow up messages and a little light nudging you get an incoming message saying “sorry, it doesn’t look like it’s going to work out” or "we're going to have to pass this time around".
*slow motion, heart sinking rejection sets in*
This scenario can be applied to many different interactions. A new client proposal, getting investors on board, going for that promotion or maybe chasing a new love interest…
Rejection sucks and here’s 3 ways that have helped me handle it better:
1 - SIT WITH IT
Breathe in, breathe out. Have a bitchfest to your BFF if you need to but whatever you do not respond immediately in a passive-aggressive manner detailing how they just lost out on the greatest thing ever.
Why? Because in the heat of the moment, when we’re hurting and dealing with the feeling of rejection, our response is going to muddy and raw.
I mean, it might feel good for about 10 seconds after you hit send but then reality sinks where you realise you just acted like a 5 year old child throwing a hissy fit. Here’s a prime example.
2 - To the left, to the left and NEXT!
When someone says NO, you say NEXT. There are 7 billion people on this Earth and hate to say it but it is a numbers game.
At age 19, a timid junior burger me was looking for my first job in IT. I applied to over 200 jobs and eventually, I landed one which then leads me to the next point...
3 - SWSWSWSW
“Some will, some won’t, so what, someone’s waiting”. Cool little wisdom nug from Jack Canfield’s book.
I love this because as much as it reminds me that I need to keep asking until I get it. It allows me to let go of the rejection, resentment and overanalysing why “people don’t want me” because there is a “yes” out there in the Universe waiting for me.
So there you have it, I hope that is helpful. As I want to think I'm your friend, please do email back and bitch about a recent rejection you encountered and I promise not to share it with anyone. I can totally relate because I feel like this week has been a tsunami of rejections but hey, the yeses might be around the corner!
Sheryl Thai, CEO
League of Extraordinary Women
P.S. I just want you to know that you are more than capable. You have all there resources at your fingertips. You are worthy of YESES.